No matter where we are in our relationships, and the level of love we have attracted to us, relationships are not something that we can tick of a list as “mission accomplished”, it is a constant progression. Our relationship success, longevity and happiness depends, to a great degree, on how we can be the best versions of ourselves. And our ability to be our best selves depends on our own appreciation of our self-worth and to what extent we can let go of our past disappointments, failings, and forgive ourselves and others. Taking lessons from our past is far better than holding onto hurt, regret, failure and heartbreak. Exorcising the pain and negativity our of our lives, deliberately and with a focus on letting go, is a critical factor to opening ourselves up to positive experiences.
Practically how does that work? The way our minds work, we are sent messages constantly from our subconscious that are fragments and interpretations of our experiences. The more these messages are sent and then accepted by us, they become beliefs. These beliefs can become heavily ingrained. They become our go to position. When it comes to love, it can be the beliefs in regard to what we think we deserve. Negative beliefs and messages shape an expectation of love that is well below what we deserve.
You can change your thoughts. You can unlearn negative thinking. You can magnify positive thinking and states even more, taking your positivity to the next level. Without that disposition relationships are difficult. You can learn optimism in all things including love. What applying positive thinking does is it allows you to interpret events in your life with more realistic optimism. In relationships, this process can help you re-frame a relationship break-up into a positive learning experience.